Two paths



Follow your instincts. That’s where true wisdom manifests itself.

Oprah Winfrey

Gosh, this is a hard one.  So many things around us teach us to ignore that inner whisper and wait for irrefutable proof, to not speak up unless we are certain, and to go along to get along.  Of course, jumping headlong into something or shying away without taking a good hard look isn’t great advice either, but time and again, I’ve found that people who successfully bring their bold visions to life have learned to hone their instincts and trust their gut. I’ve had many occasions in my life where I’ve regretted not acting on instinct, and many others when even things that looked crazy or fool-hardy at the time, proved to be some of the best decisions I ever made in the long run.

The good news in all of this is that having good instincts isn’t something you have or don’t have.  It is a learned skill that can be refined, honed, and improved. In fact, this great article from Forbes magazine goes so far as to suggest that the “luckiest” people–for whom good fortune seems to lurk around every corner, are actually finely-tuned synchronicity-seekers.  Luck, they argue, isn’t something that happens to us, it’s something we go looking for. This is where having a crystal clear vision is key.  When we know what we are looking for, we don’t miss it when it crosses our path!

Here are some suggestions to tune your instincts and attract more of what you want:

  • Get super-clear on what you want to attract.  Our StorySculpting process can help if you are stuck!
  • Tell your story, often! When you give voice to your vision, you attract like-minded people who can help.
  • Become wildly open and curious. Believe the answers are available to you and go looking for them.
  • Grow your capacity for discomfort. If you push your edge a little each day, the big things will be easier.
  • Find your tribe. Being bold takes courage–hang out with people who will prop you up and cheer you on.
  • Help others. Synchronicity is a two-way street.  Give freely and you’ll be amazed by what comes back.
  • Trust your gut. When the chance to take a leap appears, take it. Bold visions often require leaps of faith.

I’ve been powerfully reminded of this lesson lately as the vision I put forth takes root and is starting to grow in new and exciting ways.  One of the leaps of faith I made to get here meant leaving behind a path that I had loved but was no longer serving me, and meant leaving behind people I cared deeply about.

Part of my decision to leave was rooted in worries about a growing lack of transparency, and my spidey-sense started telling me that something was powerfully “off.”  When I raised my concerns repeatedly and was first assured that I was “overreacting” and then actively discredited, I knew it was time to go.  It was one of the hardest professional decisions I have ever made, but I knew deep down that I had to stay in integrity with myself.

Almost immediately, new opportunities and relationships started presenting themselves and I felt more on-purpose than I had in years.  Since then, more has come to light about what that lack of transparency was masking, and many of the people I care deeply about and left behind are having a hard time right now.  Living into your purpose and bringing your bold vision to life doesn’t always feel good in the moment and it can sometimes be a lonely road, which is why finding your tribe matters so much.  I’ve found mine at Emerging Women and with the amazing SheEO community as well as with the many amazing clients who are stepping into their own unknowns.  I’d love to hear your stories of courage–the edges you’ve ridden and the times when you’ve trusted your gut even if it seemed crazy in the moment…What has trusting your gut looked like to you?